A Broken Friendship Restored!
First and foremost, I would like to thank Rhonda, her incredible books, her amazing team and every single one of you for your daily stories of love and inspiration. They continuously lift me up during my moments of doubt. They also remind me of the magical, invisible thread that forever connects us all. Thank you!
I have been following The Secret on and off for a few years now, and it’s always produced incredible, magical results. I have a million and one stories that I want to share but this one is the closest to my heart right now, so I will begin by sharing this one first.
I moved to California a couple of years ago and naturally, I was a little bit nervous about starting a brand new life, so far removed from my friends. I am a very social person so I was really happy when I developed a strong friendship with a male coworker. We bonded almost immediately. We got along great, had lots in common and even though I knew he had some feelings for me at the beginning, I didn’t feel the same and was really happy when, over time, our relationship naturally turned into one of a genuine friendship. Eventually I changed jobs but we continued to spent a lot of time together, and over time, we became best friends.
Because of how close we had gotten, I started to wonder if maybe we should have been more than friends after all. I shared that with him and we decided to give dating a shot, a risky move, considering how important our friendship was to both of us. Unfortunately, after a few months of dating, I was unable to see him as more than my best friend and we ended up breaking up. Although we ended things on good terms it seemed extremely difficult to just simply fall back into a platonic friendship we once had. We tried it for a couple of months but that only escalated into feelings of resentment and anger, and eventually came to a very climactic end during a very unfortunate fight. We both said really hurtful things and walked away with a lot of anger in our hearts. I was devastated but I also held on to my anger, and decided that I would never speak to him again.
Several months went by and I was going through a particularly difficult time in my life. That’s when I started practicing The Magic. It took focus and an active desire to change my daily attitude towards everything in my life. I started to quickly see how many things I had been taking for granted, including my relationships. When I reached the practice of mending a relationship, I knew this lost friendship was one that I wanted back. I realized that during the last few months of our relationship I focused on all the things he wasn’t providing me with. That I acted selfishly, and constantly complained about what he wasn’t to my friends, instead of being grateful for how amazing he was. I was able to see my own missteps in the journey that led to our fight and fallout, and mentally apologized for those. I made a list of ten things I was grateful for in our friendship and officially placed his friendship as my number one desire on my 10 desires list. Although a reconciliation seemed impossible at the time, I kept imagining us speaking again and focused on what that would feel like. I also accepted that I can’t force people do something that they may not want to do and released any worry about the outcome. I kept the feeling of forgiveness, joy and gratitude in my heart.
It took an entire year from the date that we fought. A year of growth and a continual practice of daily gratitude. And months and months of continued faith that our friendship would somehow be restored in one form or another. And then one day, a couple of months ago, we unexpectedly reconnected online. I couldn’t believe it! We began by exchanging a few messages and it was as if nothing had ever happened. We finally agreed to meet and it was amazing. There was no more awkwardness, no more anger. We both apologized for hurting each other and expressed how much we’ve both missed our friendship. Additionally, he is now in a relationship with a great person, so there is no more romantic subtext on either end, and we have been able to slowly and comfortably settle back into rebuilding what was once a genuine friendship. I know it’ll take work and constant self awareness, but there was a time where any of this happening was not even a possibility. So the idea that we now speak on a regular basis, bust each other’s chops and that I’ll be meeting his new girlfriend shortly, still blows my mind. It just goes to show how far gratitude and visualisation can go, and that sometimes we need to allow time to do its healing thing. Ask, believe and eventually, when the time is right, receive!
Thank you, thank you, thank you! I hope this story inspires someone out there to believe that a broken thing can truly be mended with a lot of love, gratitude, patience and faith.