Breaking The Pattern.
I noticed a pattern in my past relationships where the person I would date would be the opposite from me in every aspect. Most of my partners were demanding, insecure men who would ask me to change for the sake of our relationship. I thought this was normal since most girls go through this situation in South America. One thing I’ve learned from the past is that most of my relationships did not work because I would refuse to change in order to keep someone at my side. As a result I would complain the whole time to friends and family, and that would result into breakups and depression. I starting blaming myself and decided to give up everything just to keep a guy around. So what was I asking the Universe for? More relationships that will not work!
I actually saw the documentary of The Secret back in college more than 10 years ago. I would often attract small things like a cup of coffee but as for relationships, I wasn’t really applying the law of attraction. I would refuse to think that I had attracted these men in my life. Until, I finally decided to break the pattern! I had to stop being negative and most of all stop complaining. Sounds easy, right? Well it actually was more difficult than I thought. Instead of complaining about a past relationship, I would just not comment about it. If I starting thinking about a past lover I would switch my mind to think about something else. I would apply the saying “If I have nothing nice to say then don’t say nothing at all”. Later I decided to stop dating and looking for “the one.”
I then focused on things and activities that make me happy and learned to enjoy my own company. I analyzed myself and asked the following question: What traits am I looking for in a partner? The list went on and on of things I would like my partner to have. I kept a clear image in my mind of the type of person I wanted in my life. A man that is ambitious, open minded, attractive, likes dancing, is kind hearted, a gentleman and who knows how to speak Spanish. Those were some of the things I had placed on the list. At first I kept thinking, maybe I’m asking for too much. And again, with the negative thoughts! I would remind myself every day that this type of guy is out there. I just have not met him yet.
And guess what?
Seven months later I did find this person. We have the same interests, he is sweet, he loves the latin culture and he knows Spanish! He has no latin blood in him but acts as if he does. Unlike previous relationships where I was constantly criticized and asked to change, this person respects me and loves me for who I am. He is so interested in getting to know the country where my family and I come from. I could not have asked for a better partner!
So be careful what you wish for because you might just get it!