I finally found him. It was around three and a half years ago when I was officially introduced to The Secret by my childhood best friend. I remember the day very clearly. I had just expressed to her that I was giving up on trying to find the guy of my dreams because he just simply did not exist. Though we were in our mid-20’s, I felt like it was something that just wasn’t going to happen for me. I certainly knew the characteristics I was looking for in a partner, I just wasn’t finding them when I would go on dates. After expressing these concerns to my best friend, I vividly remember a different look in her eyes, which was strange to me because she had heard me complain about this many times before. She looked at me and said, “I think it’s because you need to change your mentality and be more positive.” I gave her a confused look and said, “What do you mean, I am a positive person?” And she said, “No, I mean really be positive. Like, feel it in your everyday life. I think you should read The Secret.” I kind of shrugged it off a bit and said, “Yes, I’ve heard of that book, but don’t think it’s for me.” That was probably the most incorrect statement I have ever made in my entire life.

I really thought about what she said when I went home. I always thought I was a positive and grateful person and couldn’t seem to understand why she would tell me that I wasn’t truly positive or truly grateful. My mother had The Secret book so I borrowed it from her and began to read it on my balcony. Upon reading the first chapter, I felt a sense of serenity. It is a feeling I truly cannot put into words. It was one of those things that can only be felt in your own body. I took a deep breath and sat on my balcony on a sunny day in September and finished that book. I was so drawn to it that I finished reading it in less than an hour. I finally understood what my best friend was saying. Yes, I was a positive person, I liked being happy, but I did not practice truly being positive. As soon as something would go wrong or a date would go wrong, I would say these words, “It is never going to happen for me. How does it happen for others and not for me?” It was not until that day and after reading that book that I realized that my mentality had been wrong all these years. This was the central reason I was not finding my soulmate. I called my best friend and told her I finally understood what she meant. I went to her house and we watched The Secret movie together, which was another rewarding experience.

Now, this is the most spectacular part of my story. Two weeks later, I met my fiancé. I knew it the minute I saw him. I knew it the minute we went on our first date. I knew it the minute he held my hand. We had been introduced through a friend and had not seen each other in person yet. That was a very new thing to me, but I decided to go out with him because I was practicing new and positive psychology that I had learned through The Secret. I remember I kept repeating in my mind throughout our date the very beautiful words of “ask, believe, receive.”

The most amazing part of this whole experience was that I was searching for my soulmate for the past six years, and within two weeks of reading The Secret, there he was in flesh, right in front of me. He was exactly the man I had pictured for myself all those years. A man that fit into what I pictured as “perfect” for me, someone who is beautiful, intelligent, driven, funny, compassionate, and of my same religion and culture.

From that day forward, I have not only shared my story with my loved ones, but I have read every book that has been written by Rhonda Byrne. The most beautiful part of our love story is that my fiancé practiced The Secret as well, without knowing that he was. He was and always had been a positive person, and he was looking for me all those years. Similar to me, I am his first love. And now three and a half years later, here we are engaged.

The cycle of passing on The Secret has continued in my life. After my best friend passed it on to me, I passed it on to our other dear friend, and low and behold, she met her future fiancé as well.

The Magic of The Secret is not only reading the book but accepting all the wonders of it. There may be skeptics and critical individuals in your life, but it is truly up to you to change your life and get the most you can out of it. I wasn’t ready for change until that glorious day that my best friend opened my eyes. I will never forget that day, and I will never stop thanking my gorgeous friend for introducing me to this book that changed my life forever. If you are like I was and are tired of going out on dates to only be disappointed, please do yourself a favor and change your mind and heart for the better.

May the joy always be with each and every single one of you who read this post!