Appreciate Your Partner!
This actually isn’t my story but 2 relationship events I have witnessed over the past few months.
After years of being alone, she began a relationship with a guy. He wasn’t a rich man, already had a kid, came from a very poor background but he treated her very well, always holding the door open, carrying her bags, etc. Throughout their relationship all she did was complain about him, the fact he never cleaned or helped with hotel recommendations. And even when he did, she would put him down to all of her friends. Over Christmas, he told her he didn’t love her anymore, out of the blue. I think back to all the teachings of The Secret and can not help but think that if she had praised what little he did do she would not be in this position.
He met a girl in our workplace, moved in with her after 2 months of dating and 10 months later they had a child together. He told me that she did everything around the house, cooking cleaning etc., but he kept talking about how he still wanted to date other girls, and how he goes all weekend ignoring his girlfriend because he feels trapped. Last week he calls me in a panic because, out of the blue, she wants to leave him.
I feel bad for my friends but their experiences have served as a cautionary tale for me to examine the ways in which I appreciate my own spouse. It has led me to guard my thoughts better. When I think about my husband, am I thinking kind, loving thoughts or am I criticizing? Is the fact that he didn’t take out the trash going to erase the fact that he is never goes to sleep without kissing me goodnight? I will appreciate and be thankful for all the good things he does.
God bless you and thank you.