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A New Chance at Love
Submitted by: Debbie
WisconsinSingle for too long.
I was married for 22 years and all of a sudden, I was getting divorced. My husband was in love with someone else. My two oldest children were just leaving for college, and my youngest one was starting his Junior year of high school. I had a really hard time and was very depressed. After the youngest graduated, I had gone from a family of 5 to only myself. My ex-husband had remarried, the kids were all in college and on their own, and I was alone. I had never been alone before and couldn’t figure out how this had happened or why? Everyone had moved on and had new lives but me. I still lived in the same house, had the same job, the same friends, the same everything, but I was alone.
I eventually started dating, but it was tough. I hadn’t been on a date in over 25 years. I made a lot of mistakes and met a lot of people. I found that I really didn’t want to date, I just wanted to jump right into the relationship. I wanted to be married again.
After 10 years, I was still single. I would never have guessed that I would have been single that long. And here I was, still living in the same house and doing the same things. The men I dated were just not right for me, but my self-esteem was very low and I didn’t want to get hurt again, so I dated men that I felt safe with. If it didn’t work out, I wouldn’t be hurt because I wasn’t making an emotional investment.
That all changed when I met Joe. I met him through work and we were immediately attracted to each other. We had so much in common that it was a little eerie. He asked me out and we had a fantastic time. I found that I was opening up to him and trusting him, and he scared me. He was the man that could hurt me because I really cared for him.
Well, it has been 4 months now and it is still going great. We love doing the same things together and we both have this dumb sense of humor.
I was wanting a loving, satisfying, relationship for 10 years, but I now know that my fear was blocking me from receiving it. After watching and reading The Secret, I was able to see that I was limiting myself by telling myself that I wasn’t good enough and that I would never find anyone who could love me and treat me good. After realizing that, I was able to work on letting go of those negative voices and think positive thoughts. That’s when my miracle happened.
After only 4 months together, I know that we will always be together. We are a perfect fit. We have friends and strangers tell us how cute we are together and how we somehow complete each other. I like to think we are like salt and pepper, we just belong together.
The Secret has changed my life and my future. It has opened my eyes and my heart. Thank you.